Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Online Dating - Tips for Selecting a User Name for Online Dating Sites

One of the first steps in creating your online dating profile is choosing a username that gives the right first impression. The profile username is the first thing someone will notice and will help them chose whether or not to keep reading. Research actually shows that most people look at the username first, then the photo. Only if they like what they see will they read the rest of your profile to find out more about you. Pick the wrong username and "snap!" people will click past your profile and move on.

All of us who have registered a profile anywhere online, whether a dating site or perhaps an e-mail account, has had the frustrating experience of repeatedly seeing "username taken" until they in desperation key in any combination of letters and numbers just to get registered. Big mistake! You can't change it later and a username is more than just a means of registering for the site.

Think of the username as a product name for your own brand. Some people may be attracted to a brand of toothpaste named 'Clean 'n' Fresh, while I doubt you would try one called 'Makes ya Gag'. The username has a similar positive or negative effect on people looking for a partner online.


Okay, so here are 8 easy steps to follow when choosing a username for your dating profile.

    Identify your name with a specific interest or liking. Write a list of your main interests, and pick one or more to combine into a username. If you like to travel, how about Europecalling? If you are an avid reader of John Gray (famous for his books about men being from Mars and women being from Venus), how about MarsVenusYouandMe? Or if you are addicted to drinking cortados (cortado is a shot of espresso with a shot of warm milk), how about Cortadoafficionado? Or pick a character name from a novel you like, or a favorite performing artist. Be a little creative and specific, don't just call yourself Kylie or Sting, but pick a specific song, lyric or line and work something out from there. Likewise, Golfpro is more specific than Sportslover.

    Add a number. The "Username taken"- blues can often be mitigated with adding a number. Use you lucky number, you probably have some options. The current year is a classic, like MarsVenus2012. Your year of birth is not so good, as this may reveal too much about you.

    Shorten it. See if the usernames can be shortened, as typing Cortadoafficionado over and over as a signature would be tiresome and difficult for slow typers. However Cortadoist or Cortado007 is easier and quicker to type.

    Browse usernames on the site(s) you wish to join and see which ones catch your attention and which do not. This will give you ideas for what works and what doesn't. If you are put off by Emoteen or Downbylaw but attracted to Funandgames then this tells you something. If a name peaks your curiosity and makes you want to get in touch and ask for the story behind the username then this give you ideas for a username you can use yourself. Look at your opposite gender first and don't just look of profiles in your target range. Take notes of good names, it's always hard to find back to them later.

    Make it appropriate for the site you are joining and the relationship you are looking for. For a liberal, adult site a username like Wellhung may be appropriate. On a broader site where you are looking for serious relationships, something more innocent is appropriate. Inappropriate names may give unwanted, inappropriate attention from other members. If you are unsure of the type of relationship you are looking for then stay away from emotion or sexual innuendo in your username and stick with your interests.

    Be careful with unintended innuendo. If you use Takemeplaces you could be suggesting for someone to pay your way on your travels.

    Avoid emotion and sentiment. Words like lonely or love in a username suggests someone who is needy or desperate.

    Avoid bragging. Don't get all carried away and call yourself Lovetorun if you just like casual jobbing. Chances are you will meet someone who runs ten miles a day and expects you to keep up. You will not look attractive lying in the street gasping for air.

Here is a powerful tip to top it off: Make a reference to the online dating username in the subtitle or main text of the profile. Once you have chosen a username that is available on the site you are joining make sure you refer to it in your profile text. A good way to do this is adding a question to a profile that links to your username. Asking a question makes it easier for people to contact you. If you are Cortadoafficionado then refer to your coffee addiction early in your profile, for example: "I love cortados, do you want to know my recipe?" Or "What coffee drink are you addicted to?" Other examples: "I recently returned from mysterious Cairo. What's the most interesting place you have been to recently?"